Dear Abby: We recorded on video and audio on the porch of our daughter, thinking that we were talking among us privately.
We were arguing how injured we were not doing it because spending time with us on our 50th wedding anniversary, shortly after she and her husband moved out of the state.
They could be easy to drive to a new recreational vehicle park near our house. Her aunt tried to talk to her about seeing family members and being with us, but she refused.
We have supported our daughter despite all the mistakes he has made. He offended because we had no good thoughts regarding his new life in another state and faced me about my negativity, which was caught by the camera.
I have apologized with no savings about my negativity, but I was angry and injured. My husband creates that she has to be the one who forgives and forgets.
Two years have passed Christmas and birthday cards without any recognition. To do? – Bust in Georgia
Dear Burned: I agree with your husband. Do you remember adage, “the best defense is a good offensive”? (It is also known as the strategic offensive principle of war).
His daughter knows that she was not going to her anniversary celebration, and she also knows how annoying she was about it because it is in Herbell Camera.
However, he does not want to admit that he was wrong and apologized. What you should do now is continuous sending vacation cards to let him know that the ball is on his court, and I hope that, over time, he grows up.
Dear Abby: My husband and I know each other for 36 years and the leg married by 20. He has a serious drink problem.
He still works and does not drink the work week, but he compensates for it on swords on weekends. We both stopped drinking alcohol 15 years ago. I never started again, but he did, and now he can’t stop.
He is too proud to seek professional help. He is an engineer and believes that he can quit smoking on his own, but he is only deceiving himself.
My problem is to retire soon, and I’m afraid it will be drunk all the time. For me, it is a decisive factor.
We are both in our 70 years. I retired 15 years ago. If I leave it, I have nowhere to go, with just SSA to support me. Any advice I may have is welcome because I am in my ingenuity with the whole matter. – Fleoso in Utah
Dear floing: Because Al-Anon did not mention, the 12-step program that supports friends and families affected by the drink of a loved one, I will assume that he has never attended any of his meetings.
Go to Al-Anon.org/info and discover if there are meetings near you. (You may be surprised to discover that there are many).
If you attend meetings, you will find others who experience similar problems to their own and learn coping methods. You may find a roommate if you choose to move. Please do not wait to start.
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